The Loooove Doctor is Here

I just had a conversation about relationships. A girl asked me “Should a woman have to tell a man what she likes?” She believed that if a couple had spent enough time together, that should be unnecessary. I couldn’t subscribe to that belief. Too much experience. ‘Should’ isn’t a word that works very well in that type of situation. We shouldn’t have to tell our mates what we like. We shouldn’t ever disagree or argue. Love should conquer all. Apples should have legs. ‘Should’ is basically a meaningless word here. The important words in relationships are ‘want’ and ‘will’. When you know what you want and don’t want, you can decide what you will and will not do.

An attentive partner will most likely figure out what you like to some degree, but what about those likes that slip past the radar? If you really want them, you will either tell your partner or you will have to learn to do without. It’s that simple. Why play games hoping and waiting for them to figure it out? No matter how much you may love, care for, and pay attention to a person, unless your last name is Cleo, you are not a mind reader. Neither is anyone else. If you are searching for a mate who will magically understand your every need and desire without the need for vocalization, you’ll probably find him/her next to the fountain of youth sipping cocktails with the king of Atlantis. A much more realistic goal is someone who cares about your desires. Someone who once they do know what you want (because you said what you want) will make it a priority to give it to you.

It is important to differentiate between fairy tale romance, true romance, and bad romance. Someone that can read you mind – fairy tale. Someone that does their best to understand you and please you – true. Someone that doesn’t try to put in the energy to figure out what you want – bad.